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Everyone wants that someone special
that they can share their lives with, and grow old
together. It doesn't matter who you are or where you
come from, everybody deserves a good relationship. A
good relationship is not yours of right, but you can
have a good relationship if you are prepared to work
for it. And as I have said many times, taking the
effort to make your loved one happy, which in turn
makes you happy, can hardly be viewed as
work.
I hope that you
are all aware that the love stories that you read
in the books or see on the screen are just that,
stories. Unfortunately we all live in the real
world. If you go into a relationship with
unrealistic expectations, then you will not have
much of a relationship. You can have a good
relationship if you both look to make the best of
your situation, and do your best to build the best
relationship that you can.
Your partner is
not perfect, you are not perfect, we all have our
faults. You both fell in love with each other
because you fell for the unique individual that you
are. We have our good points and our bad points,
you cannot choose which wants your partner can
keep. Do not try to change your partner, they may
have some personal habits that could do with some
work, but if you try to change them into something
that they are not, then they are no longer the
person that you fell in love with, will you still
love them? You can have a good relationship if you
accept each other for who you are, that's the
person that you fell in love with.
As you build your
relationship you have a great time getting to know
each other. You go on dates, vacations, and you can
talk for hours. As you become used to each other it
is far to easy to take each other for granted, when
this happens your relationship starts to go stale
and boring. If you want to have a good
relationship, you have to keep the spark alive. You
can have a good relationship if you share your
lives together, if you spend quality time together,
if you just talk, then you keep it all interesting,
your relationships holds on to the spark and stays
exciting.
One thing to
remember is that you are never to old to date. Why
should you only have all the fun at the start of
the relationship. You want to do something together
at least once a week. Having a bit of YOU time will
help you to reconnect, to unwind from the stresses
of everyday life, to enjoy being in each others
company, and this is important, to have fun. You
can share interests, look for new things to do
together, it doesn't matter what you do, so long as
you do it together.
If you have read
any of my previous articles you will know that I am
a great believer in spending quality time together.
Well you also need to be able to spend time apart.
You can have a good relationship if you pursue your
own interests and spend time with your friends. It
brings new thoughts and ideas to the table, it
helps to develop you as individuals, and it gives
you something to talk about. Your friends and
interests are a part of who you are, and ultimately
goes into making you that interesting person that
your partner was drawn to.
Letting issues,
that could have been dealt with early, is a sure
way to have a miserable relationship. If an issue
comes up, then deal with it. If you made a mistake
or said something unfortunate in the heat of the
moment, take responsibility for what you did, admit
that you were wrong and apologize. You are both
very different individuals, and as such you have
your own perspectives on issues, you might have
conflicting views and you could both be right, you
might even be wrong. When you were single, the
world revolved around you, all of your decisions
were based on how they would affect you. Now that
you are in a relationship you cannot just think
about what is best for you the individual, you also
have to consider your partner. You can have a happy
relationship if you both focus on what is best for
the relationship. When you have arguments, use them
as a chance to resolve a problem together, and as a
result, get closer together.
You can have a
good relationship if you both focus on creating the
best relationship possible. Be realistic about what
you want and expect from the relationship. Talk to
each other, find out their wants and needs, and how
you can help them. Have fun together, take pleasure
in being in each others company, and remember, you
are never to old to go on dates. Accept each other
for who you are, and walk into the future,
together.
When I first
started writing about relationships, I set
up http://www.reviewthemagicofmakingup.com
so that I could
examine all aspects of relationships. I have
since set up http://www.helpmarriage.org
so that I could
separate marriage and relationships onto
different sites. I am trying to cover all
aspects (or as much as possible) of marriage
and relationships. I hope that you will find
something on one of my sites that will be of
help to you.
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