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We all have
sex for different reasons. But if you're repeating certain sexual behaviours, you may be
covering up an unspoken agenda.
Sleeping with someone too soon
Your agenda is neediness. You want attention and are keen to please, and you
need to be valued and desired. you may also assume that if you give people what they want,
they'll give it right back. You feel that physical affirmation from the opposite sex will raise
your self-esteem.
Having
sex when you don't feel like it
Your agenda is
maintaining the relationship you're in. you have a tendency to be the caretaker of the
relationship, the person who will do anything to make sure it endures, even if it means ignoring
your own anxieties and frustrations. This fear of asking for what you really want can be rooted
in childhood, particularly for women who felt their father paid them little
attention.
Having
sex reward or punish your partner
Your agenda is
a need to feel in control. You are using sex as a bargain tool. Again this is probably rooted in
childhood experience where you didn't feel you had the power to make your own decisions or
express your own opinions. If you've always felt imposed upon, sexual bargaining feels like a
way of taking power back.
Being
unfaithful
Your agenda is avoidance. You have difficult talking through issues in
your relationship.
You mat feel hurt, abandoned, angry or bored, but rather than
owning up to these emotions you find it easier to sleep with someone else. it could also be
that commitment scares you, so again you tend to use sex to avoid
communication.
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