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In our society we have confused the meaning of being alone with
feeling alone. Many people have slipped in depression because they feel isolated and alone. The key
is to not allow this feeling of loneliness overtake you. It's okay to be alone and not feel alone.
The difference is night and day and you will live a much healthier and balanced life.
Step1: Understand that every person will at some point in their life expereince the feeling of
loneliness. You do shoulder this by yourself. The good news is that you can deal with loneliness
and live contently while being single.
Step2: There is a difference between being alone and feeling alone (lonely). Humans have a
natural need to live in community and interdepedence with other people. We need each other.
However, being alone simply means no one is around me right now. this can change at any moment.
Step3: Loneliness is basically and foremost a feeling. You can be in a crowded room and still
feel lonely but you are not alone. Loneliness is does not neccessarily describe being alone, but
rather describes the pain that some experience while being alone.
Step4: You cannot choose if someone will be around you at a given moment but you can choose how
you will respond to being alone. This is not an accusation of weakness for feeling lonely at times.
What is being addressed is how we should (and should expect) to live on a daily basis.
Step5: Many Single people equate loneliness with singleness as if they just fit together. They
do not! Singleness is a time of taking care of you and adding value to your life. This will help
you to be a contributor to your relationship once you are attached as oppose to just receiving.
Step6: As a single person, get focused on your purpose, your life's mission. Don't know what
that is... Take time to find out and map a specific course toward that goal. Hang around people
with similar goals and interest.
Step7: Learn to enjoy your own company. Since most of your single life will be with you. Learn
to enjoy who you are. This will also, make you more enjoyable when you are around others. This does
not mean become a hermit or avoid people. Remember we do need each other.
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