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Am I losing My Marbles?
"Since I've had two kids and started working from home. I've become really scatty. I', always forgetting what I'm doing and often stop mid-sentence because I haven't a clue what I was saying. Could I be losing my mind?
Having a scatty short-term memory is very common in busy working mums who are juggling ten things at once. Unless you have a family history of early-onset or senile dementia, don't worry. To improve your short term memory, simplify your daily schedule and do away with any non-essential chores.
learning to delegate will lighten your load, get your kids to help out with the dishes, for example. It's also a good idea to set yourself working hours and to limit multi-tasking-no rushing out to the shops halfway through an email, or worrying about dinner when you're making a business call. Also make sure you get enough sleep, eat oily fish three times a week to boost your brain power and choose slow- release carbs like wholemeal bread to give you energy. Ginko biloba can also help your brain to function better, but unfortunately supplements won't solve the problem. Give yourself a break, you don't have to be superwoman!. |
How can I Get My Family To Pay Me, More Attention?
My husband barely notices me and my kids think I'm taxi service. I feel fat and invisible. What can I do to make things better?
it's sounds like you're in a vicious circle. Your husband doesn't give you any attention and the kids probably pick up on that, which is why they don't seem to respect you. This in turn makes you feel so low you don't challenge their behaviour and feel bad about yourself instead. Almost anything that breaks this cycle will work. You could attack it from your negative body image, for example if you genuinely are overweight, then exercising and getting your image together will give you that much-needed confidence boost.
or you could start setting ground rules for the kids so they know who's boss. As your kids respond to your new assertiveness, my guess is that your husband will be so shocked he'll start paying you more attention, too. If your relationship has lost its spark, try spending more time alone with your husband and talking about how you feel.
Finally, feeling invisible often stems from a loss of identity. Doing something for yourself, like taking up a new hobby or starting a course, will help boost your self- esteem and remind you just how much you have to offer the world. It sounds like your family are very lucky to have you. |
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How to Stop My Smelly Feet?
My feet smell horrible, I am so embarrassed . What can I do?
*Throw a few tea bags in a foot tub filled with hot water and soak your feet in it nightly for 15 minutes, and rub them in alcohol or cheap vodka. It kills bacteria.
*Or soak them in some bleach and soapy water.
*Or soak your feet in episom salt till the water gets cold dry them off and use Tanictin spray.
*Or wipe your feet clean with cotton wool dipped in surgical spirit.
Wear cotton socks as polyester blends tend to make things worse.
You need to throw out those shoes affected by the smell. Don't wear the same pair of shoes everyday.
Buy some heavy duty, odour absorber innersoles. They absorb sweat, so that there is less chance for a moist environment for bacteria to breed in. You must make sure to put then in every pair of shoes to make this system effective.
Check for fungal infections between your toes and on the bottom of your feet. If you spot redness or dry skin, use an athlete's foot preparation, available from your local chemist.
All these tips need to be commenced at the same time. Because if they are not, you will continue to spread the bacteria (or fungus) from shoe to shoe. |
Will I Ever Want Sex Again
Since my son was born, I've completely lost interest in sex. I lobe my husband so I've always gritted my teeth and let him make love to me, but eight years on, I still hate it. he'd be devastated if he knew. Is there any hope for me?
Your initial dislike for sex sounds absolutely normal, what with childbirth and the pressures of new motherhood, sex goes right to the bottom of the agenda. But for most women, after a natural break, desire starts to creep back slowly, tentatively, passion starts to become important again. That wasn't what happened for you. Out of love, you gritted your teeth and kept on having sex even when you didn't want it. And the body has a very sensible way of reacting when you do something you don't want, it strengthens its defences, and sends stronger messages to persuade you not to do that thing again.
Face up to what's happening. Stop forcing yourself to have sex when your body's screaming "no". tell your husband you love him deeply but you just don't fancy sex right now. It will give your body and mind a break from the strain. Counselling will give you a chance to pinpoint the problem and talk through your feelings. You can get through this, but only if you stop forcing yourself to make love without wanting it.
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