Dating Mr. Superficial
Ken Playman knows he’s "Hot Stuff." His world revolves around his needs. Ladies beckon to his wants and desires. Men envy his magnetism. However, Ken is shallow in deed. He places good looks, a great body, and material possessions over an individual’s character. Ken doesn’t understand why he’s so unhappy with his life. As Ken walks down the street with a new lady by his side, one old lady winks to another, "Man, that woman got trouble on her hands."
The Self-Inspection
Have you ever met someone and thought, "Gee, that person is pretty superficial?" You may like that person, but the shallow nature of that person is an obstacle to any serious friendship. Of course, you see them saying the right words and attempting to do the right things. Sooner or later, their superficial nature comes out, and you can’t believe they are that way. If you were honest with yourself, you knew that person was pretty hollow in the beginning but you didn’t want to accept it.
Obviously, shallowness is non-discriminatory. It comes in all shapes and sizes. You can find these surface people in all walks of life. This article investigates how to detect them and save you some needless grief in your life. You can learn how to surround yourself with great content instead. This process will foster better relationships with family, friends, co-workers, and loved ones. Therefore, you can use your time wisely and become more efficient by improving the quality of your relationships.
Good Character
In spite of material gain and power, character still counts in fostering genuine relationships. Superficial human beings care little about the value of other people, so they foster focused inwardly. What is in it for me? What are my needs? Because superficial individuals are constantly trying to make the world conform to their needs, they focus little on building good character. It becomes more of a distraction. Like eating frosting on a cake, these people never get a nutritious meal to promote a healthy spirit. Yes, the frosting provides a short-term boost in life, but it is not lasting.
Shallow people do not provide a good ingredient for an effective organization. John C. Maxell, author of The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership, places a heavy regard on attitude. He writes, "If you want outstanding results, you need good people with great talent and awesome attitudes. When attitudes go up, so does the potential of the team." When you have a selfish person leading an organization, this attitude has a negative impact on the organization.
The Wrong Choices
In the hectic pace of 21st century living, some people are in the pursuit of the wrong things. The media bombards us with the notion that "We can have it all. We deserve the very best." When this philosophy is believed, it creates a generation of inwardly focused people. We become a "Me" generation. Because this person feels he is entitled to be happy, he focuses on what can make him happy now. Obviously, it is far easier to pursuit things (money, power, right clique, etc.) in terms of happiness because they are tangible to the eyes. However, this short path is not a road to fortune but perhaps a highway to destruction.
If you are in relationships with superficial people, you can be assured that your intimacy will lack depth. Your relationship may feel like the real thing but over time the truth usually will reveal itself. How does a person then seek to surround themselves with people of good content? In addressing this question, here are things to consider in any relationship:
What is the individual, overall objective in life?
Is the person more about acquiring material things or outward appearances than building lasting relationships?
Can you trust that person?
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Do you feel you are being used or taken advantage of?
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Is the person more concerned about her image than doing the right things?
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Do you consider yourself a superficial person? If so, do you want to change?
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Do you honestly think that the people you associate with have good character? If not, why are you associated with them?
The Right Results
Building lasting and genuine relationships is depended on the right idiosyncrasies. An individual’s character is more important than what he or she can bring to the table. Unfortunately, some people do not have this depth of character. They exist on the shallow end of the spectrum; they rarely make serious relationships. Why is this factor the case? These people are more concerned with what’s on the outside of an individual than what is on the inside. Clearly, this is a mistake. Real individuals want quality and meaningful relationships. Are you involved in shallow relationships? To have a good life, focus more on content. Don’t be guilty of building shallow relationships. Start today!
Daryl and Estraletta Green provide personal advice all around the country. They are the author of several books, including My Cup Runneth Over: Setting Goals for Single Parents and Working Couples. They have been noted and quoted in such media organizations such as USA Today and AP. Do you want to improve your life? Do you want to make better decisions? If you answer "yes," then go to the 'master decision-making' website at http://www.darylandestraletta.com |
